theres no doubt about it, break ups suck, but in the first few hours, or days or even weeks that follow, theres one important truth you need to recognize, some things can't and shouldn't be fixed, especially that loser who dumped you, or forced you to dump him, its over for a reason and deep down inside you probably know what that reason is & at the end of the day, its about weather you like yourself enough to face the reality that you're romance wasn't working, to recognize that it wasn't giving you what you needed and deserved.

anyone who assesses you or your relationship as "disposable" is not worthy of your time, or your tears, just remember though, that any reasons you come up with, they are ultimately irrelevant, the harsh reality is that even if you have everything else in common, the one thing you don't have in common is the belief that this relationship can work & that alone trumps your shared love of parties, movies and fast food..

a lot of the pain you are experiencing right now is actually fear, fear of things being different then how you liked them, fear of never finding love again, fear of being alone, fear of having to fill your time differently, we're all afraid of the unknown..

the person you loved took a good long look at the awesomeness that is you, evaluated your relationship together and said, "no thanks, i'll try my luck elsewhere" or you said it to him, either way, that alone should make you realize that it wasn't a match made in heaven.

~i don't know means no
~i don't know means, i'm too cowardly to tell you the truth because i can't deal with confrontation
~i don't know means, please do the dirty work for me because i don't want to hurt your feelings

awesome thought ` the annoying thing that your ex did, will never bother you again, i'm sure that you're plan to get them back worked out in your head, i'm even sure that it would in some movie you saw, but your ex doesn't have the time to follow a movie script and you shouldn't either, MOVE ON!

every moment of pain, weakness and discomfort puts you in a position to choose how you'll alleviate your condition, calling him doesn't make it better, it only pulls you back into the cycle of heartbreak, he is the PAST, you're the future, messing up his life isn't the best revenge, its getting on with yours and living it to the fullest..

as much as it sucks, you need to FORCE yourself to remember your very worst times together, his most irritating habits and the hard truth that not only can he live without you... but he'd rather.. you're giving an okay guy who made some big mistakes a hell of a lot more credit then he deserves, he's a coward and a betrayer and not one but two, he clearly feels ambivalent about you at best, otherwise he would have left her a long time ago. . .

his regrets or lack there of are exactly that, this and not even the best little black cocktail dress can change that, every time you see him, you only make yourself more vulnerable to further heartache, do you really need to further proof that he's getting on with his life without you? The one who dumped you has had a huge head start on healing, however long he entertained ending the relationship is also how long he's been emotionally extracting himself from you..

he was either partially or totally over it before you even knew it was going down, you weren't in the same relationship...
you can love your friends, you can love your family, you can even love every dog or stray drummer that crosses your path, however, you have learned to love yourself, like yourself and put yourself before you'll ever find a healthy, loving and lasting relationship that you've been looking for..

Love doesn't walk away, people do..